Jane Doe was three years old when her Mommy divorced her Daddy. Jane’s earliest memory was of Mommy and Daddy fighting. What were they fighting about? Jane couldn’t remember, or she couldn’t understand. The adults used big language.

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Jane Doe was upstairs when Mommy and Daddy yelled at each other at the top of their lungs. Daddy smoked and his lungs were still working at their maximum capacity, bellowing out foul language. Mommy wasn’t cowed as she replied in kind.

Before long, Mommy divorced Daddy. Both parents didn’t want custody of Jane. Daddy threatened or really wanted to give up Jane for adoption. Jane’s paternal grandparents took pity of her and insisted Daddy should take custody of her. They had their way.

Daddy was never quite the man he was supposed to be before the divorce and after the divorce. Jane was left alone, a reminder of his failed marriage.

Mommy never contacted Jane and that side of the former family. Mommy later remarried into social stability, status and wealth. Jane wondered if S, S, and W were the factors in her parents’ divorce.

Jane Doe grew up with her paternal grandparents and Daddy. In that order. Daddy never held a steady job, never really dated or socialized again.

Jane heard from her grandparents he was a broken man after his divorce. He was too wounded and immersed in his suffering to see what Jane was going through after the divorce.

Grandparents, concerned relatives and friends rallied around Daddy. They insisted he consult a psychologist and psychiatrist. Daddy went for a couple of consultations but he rejected the experts. He refused followup treatment.

Jane Doe’s Daddy remained isolated, distant and in his own world. In the meantime, Jane Doe grew up. She often cried for Mommy. Sometimes, she shed tears for her Daddy who was in the house but yet wasn’t quite there.

Jane had many questions in her mind but she was afraid to ask them. Why did her parents divorce? Mommy didn’t love her and left her behind. The housekeeper who helped Grandma in the domestic housework sometimes taunted Jane. Don’t be a naughty girl, you already caused your parents’ divorce, she sometimes said to Jane.

Jane Doe never gave her family any trouble. Jane wasn’t mute but yet was mute. She was a quiet child who didn’t take well to the authoritarian rule of her grandparents. The child from a broken family was brought up in a dysfunctional family. It compounded Jane Doe’s problems.

Jane Doe always asked, “God, why me?” God was silent. Jane’s godfather once told her, “One day, it will all make sense why all this has happened to you.”

Jane Doe grew up a train wreck. She spent a lifetime trying to heal. Jane’s father wasn’t any help. He had his own issues to deal with.

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